Ten tips for enjoying dating apps
We need to talk about safety, dangers, and tools to avoid putting ourselves at risk and to connect with others with peace of mind.
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You've probably heard a story about arranging a date through apps that turns into a nightmare. A friend who was robbed, an acquaintance who arrived to find someone who looked nothing like the person they were told in the messages, or someone who turned out to be a thief. And that's not even mentioning the violence and revictimization you face if you need to report it. Unfortunately, these scams are more common than we think.
That's why we've put together this list with recommendations, tools, and tips so that, without having to stop using these apps, you can enjoy the encounter without putting yourself at risk:
1- The first thing is to know who we're talking to. Besides photos, it can be helpful to ask for their social media, WhatsApp, and other information.
2- Do you know what a 'Catfish' is? They're people who use fake photos and information on social media to deceive us. So, if they share their social media accounts with you, you have to verify that they're really theirs.
3- Always let someone know what you're going to do and where you'll be. You can send the information or your real-time location to a friend and keep them updated on how everything is going.
4- Try to meet in public and busy places . If you already know them, great, and if not, first check where they are, how to get back, transport availability, etc.
5- If you're going to someone else's house or expecting visitors, make sure you know who's coming in by asking for their social media accounts and contact information, and let your friends know too. If you're hosting someone, keep in mind not to leave valuables lying around unnecessarily.
6- If you're going to consume anything—from a drink to any substance—try to make sure it's something you're getting yourself. For example, if it's drinks, make sure they open them in front of you.
7- If you need to file a complaint with the authorities, first seek advice from an LGBT+, transfeminist, and/or human rights organization. Do not go to the police alone; they often tend to revictimize you, are not trained to assist you, and may not even care and could mistreat you.
8- If you want to share the incident on social media, you can do so without overexposing yourself. Often we don't talk about these situations because we might be criticized and attacked online. You don't even need to give out your personal information; a clear and concise message is enough.
9- All these tips are to help us enjoy our networks and connections , not to launch a punitive hunt, which is why it is very important to communicate responsibly.
10-This ten-point plan is not meant to scare us or cause us to stop connecting . It's about taking care of each other as a community.
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